Variety Really is the Spice of Life

Let me start by assuring those who are related to me or who have no interest in my sex life, which I hope is most of you - this is not about me or my current personal experiences....okay, now that that is out of the way. Oh, one more thing. These are broad generalizations and not intended to apply to all reading.

I'm coming to the conclusion there is a fundamental difference between most men and women. Now before you shake your head and say "no duh" (you know who you are), stick with me. I've heard a lot of men complain about the disappearance of sex over time in long term relationships or marriage. I've also heard a lot of women complain about the same thing. Which started me thinking. Why is it that two people who couldn't keep their hands off each other in the beginning stages can't seem to put them on each other regularly after some time? I'm leaning towards the theory that women get bored sexually. If we get the same thing, the same way everytime, we're going to lose interest. It really might be that simple. When sex becomes routine, heck when anything becomes routine we stop wanting to do it - be it workouts, what we do for a living, commute to work, sex, going to the same restaurant or doing the same thing every Friday night. If you change it up a bit from time to time, the spark will stay lit, we will stay interested and involved. This doesn't mean it has to be different every time or that you need to be insanely kinky or outrageous if that isn't in you (and it isn't in everybody and that's okay) (also, no pun intended). Speaking from personal experience, a little shake up in routine from time to time can be very beneficial and appreciated. Take into consideration though, this is from the girl who moved 3,000 miles on a whim.